If you’re a millennial and you’re tired of almost all your friends getting married and showing off their wedding photos and picturesque poses and smiles on Facebook, Instagram and other social media sites, I have something just for you.
Depending on who you are, it can be overwhelming seeing some of your friends tieing the knot and getting a head start on living their happily-ever-after lifestyle way before you did. Also, you may feel sad because of it—primarily due to the fact that you yourself haven’t found your Matthew McConaughey, Ryan Gosling, Taylor Swift, or, say, in my case, Rosario Dawson. Thus, you may think that the latter confirms and cements the fact that you might be single for the rest of your life.
And because of this, I imagine that you may ask yourself, “are there still anyone, my age, that are not divorcing the freedoms of singledom for the rigidities of conventional relationships?” Oops, that’s how I talk and think, but you may say something more, like, “what’s up with all my friends getting married ?”
The good news is, and despite the small fraction of your friends who finally decided to take the advice of Beyonce when she said in her “Single Ladies” music video that “if you like it you should put a ring on it,” millennials are twenty percent less likely to get married before their twenties. Also, and according to recent findings from the Pew Research Center, forty percent of millennials think that marriages and long-term, conventional relationships are obsolete.
Hooray! Hooray! isn’t this such great news?! You can now kick back your feet on some futon somewhere, dust your shoulders off because you have ninety-nine problems but a relationship an’t one, and relax your mind over the fact that majority of our generation are not getting married.
To look at this phenomenon a little further, millennials are not getting married because we crave and have come to appreciate the values of having options—-as opposed to settling down to the limiting enterprises of marriages and long-term, conventional relationships.
Secondly, marriages are way too expensive to a generation that not only experienced the Great Recession but are underemployed because of it and are also the most indebted generation since 2014. Even if we wanted to entertain the idea of settling down, the majority of us, don’t have the capital and the financial solidity to even do it.