Sorry to burst your bubbles, fellas, but pick-up-artists aren’t artists. The biggest reason being; there’s just way too many variables. For instance, if you live in India or anywhere in the Middle East, where 99 percent of the populace are Muslim, you cannot go around picking up girls because if anyone were to find out they’d, literally, stone you to death. Put plainly, not everyone can be pick-up-artists because not everyone lives in the same geographical region or observes the same religion.
Moving on. Here’s another example; if you’re tall, can afford fancy clothes and have a kick-ass ride to drive a girl around with, you’re more likely to get a girl to sleep with you than some schmuck who doesn’t have any of those things going for himself. In other words, to be a consistent “pick-up-artist” you must first have two or three things going for you, one; geography, two; good genes, and three; good socio-economic status. Now, because not everyone has the privilege of, simultaneously, having any of those things going for them, you cannot call yourself an artist whenever you succeed at picking up a girl.
A third reason why pick-up-artists aren’t artists is that the term “artist,” itself, does not apply to their activity. According to the current definitions of the word “artist,” one can only be considered an “artist” when one is “skilled at a particular task or [an] occupation,” and since pick-up-artists aren’t “skilled” but are privileged, they do not fit nicely in that definition. In other words, just because I might’ve been blessed with certain prerequisites to succeed, like a tall frame, access to capital, and a fancy car, does not make the things that I am good at, a skill. Another way to look at it is like this; if you’re an athlete and you’re 6’5 and you can dunk a basketball, that’s not a skill.
Okay, so tall athletes who can dunk basketballs aren’t skillful; but do you really mean it when you say that people that are privileged can’t be skilled at something?
That’s a great question and the simple answer is, no. Being privileged does not mean that you are incapable of becoming skillful at something. Take, for example, Prince Henry of Wales, the Queen’s grandson; he was born into privilege but yet he’s a skillful fighter pilot—-who, in one of the military’s most expensive and sophisticated aircrafts; the Apache helicopter, has killed plenty of insurgents in Afghanistan. But, the more complicated answer to that question; is that people like Prince Henry are in a different class of skillfulness than most people because of their privileges.
Like anything in life, there are degrees in which the terms like, “skillful” or “mastery,” can be applied to someone. For instance, if you’re a working-class individual, competing against a middle-class individual at becoming the world’s best bodybuilder, you’re probably not going to achieve that goal because you wouldn’t have had the same access to the type of supplements, trainers, or connections like the middle-class person would have had. Now then, when that middle-class person is granted the title of “the best” or the most “skillful,” it’s much more different than someone calling that working-class person “the best” or “skillful.” On their own, both terms may sound the same but when applied to two different people with vastly different socio-economic statuses, they suddenly take on two different meanings.
So in that sense, the best, so-called “pick-up-artists,” aren’t actually artists because they’re in a different class than most average people. Meaning, their title was made possible by the very fact that they had certain advantages that other people did not have. And this separation of advantages and disadvantages is what makes their type of skill, not a true art.
Now, if you were to say to me that, Lewuga, guys who pick up girls are enthusiasts, then I would absolutely agree with you because being an enthusiast requires none of the above things that I’ve just mentioned. But to call them artists; now that would be incorrect. But now that we’ve established that pick-up-artists aren’t actually artists, let’s take a look at some of their bullshit suggestions on how to pick-up girls.
Suggestion number 1.) How to get laid soon after she hands you her number.
After she gives you her number, text her right away, asking to hang out; she’d be so happy that you remembered her that she’ll even set up a time to meet for the both of you.
Bullshit. Guys, don’t ever do that; you’ll just look like a desperate fool if you do. What the research shows is that a woman likes a man who is aloof, and doesn’t appear needy. In other words, if you want her to remember you or to text you back, don’t text her right away. Give her some space to evaluate her handing you her number. The guy who can be patient will succeed, but the guy who can’t be patient will, almost certainly, jeopardize the girl’s interest in him.
That first advice was from a pick-up-artist who goes on to suggest that if you buy – or attend – one of his “courses,” that he’d personally teach you how to get a girl to be interested in you, again; even after she’d stop texting you back for weeks. I am no expert on women – and anyone who claims that they are, are selling you a load of crap – but I do know a little thing-or-two about common sense. And if a girl is not responding to any of your text messages for weeks – or longer – that’s an obvious sign that she’s not interested in you. And no “course” in the world will fix that.
Suggestion number 2.) An invitation to nothing.
This second suggestion is from Zan Perrion, a very popular pick-up-artist in the seduction community; and he says that you if you want a girl to be with you, you should just invite her into nothingness. For example, when you invite her to your place or to a bar, etc, don’t actually tell her what it is that you’re interested in doing. Let it be a complete mystery. Forget, for a second, how creepy or boring that might sound to a girl but, the mystery of it all, he says, will be the thing that will automatically attract her to you.
Sure, everyone likes a little mystery everyone once in a while, but what everyone likes more is to actually know what it is that they’re getting into. So for that, I call bullshit, on this advice. Guys, the truth is; the moment you invite a girl to come over or to simply hang out with you, and she asks “what are we gonna do?” and you say “we’re gonna do nothing,” she’s immediately going to find something else more substantive than what you’ve just offered her.
Instead of inviting a girl into nothingness, I would recommend that you be upfront with her and state exactly what it is that you’re in the mood for. And the reason why this method will work better than what Zan Perrion was suggesting, is because, again, research shows that women tend to go for men that are assertive, confident and goal-oriented. By taking the initiative to invite her over, and by also stating what you’re in the mood for, she will get the impression that your assertive, confident, and goal-oriented.
To be perfectly honest, I don’t mind it that guys are so interested in women that they make it their life’s mission to study how to pick them up. However, what I find very concerning is the fact that some of their methods aren’t rooted in sincerity or, in a genuine sense to actually get to know the person that they are hitting on. Rather, their goal is to manipulate and trick their victims into sleeping with them, without, in return, offering anything substantive. “A lot of my game,” one pick-up-artist said, “centers around not wasting a lot of financial resources. I don’t even take girls out….I meet them on the street and invite them to my place. If I’m attracted to the girl, my end game is to be physical. I want them in a controlled environment where I can escalate it into a sexual scenario.”
At this current time in history, where we’re discovering that sexual predators are not only manipulating and using their position of power to get what they want out of women but, in return, are causing severe traumatic experiences in their victims, we simply don’t need any more so-called “pick-up-artists” putting women in “controlled” spaces where the end goal is to “escalate” the situation into a “sexual scenario.”
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